Constellation Logistics & Helpful Info
General Information
Terms and Things to Note
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Payment and Rescheduling
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Before the Constellation
Just taking the step to book a Constellation can start the healing process unfolding - so congratulations on taking this step.
Sometimes people start to get unwell before a scheduled session, or symptoms can appear to worsen as the underlying dynamics are coming to the surface for resolution. Sometimes a sudden scheduling conflict can arise and get in the way. I suggest you go ahead with the session if you possibly can so we can support the healing process that is already unfolding in your body.
Setting an intention: gently ponder your intention before the Constellation so it is clear in your mind and heart. The best intentions are deeply heart felt desires for some kind of change in your life or relationships. It can be helpful to think about how you would feel if your intention were to come about. If you’re in a group setting and have a particularly sensitive intention that you don't want to talk about in front of the group, we can chat beforehand or during a break. Just let me know.
If you’re planning to set a Constellation for a business/organisation, situation or piece of land then we can get quite specific. you may want to put some thought into what specific factors you want to include and what you would like to explore or resolve.
Even if you’re not expecting to set a Constellation (during a group event), it can be helpful to think about your personal intention for the Circle. As representatives and observers, we still get many opportunities to do our own work as the Constellations unfold.
Family history or background: If you are setting a Constellation it can be helpful to know of unusual circumstances in your family such as traumatic experiences, wars, early deaths, miscarriages or abortions, and people who may have been pushed out of the family or disowned for some reason. If your ancestors immigrated then it can be helpful to know where they were from originally, and what generation immigrated. Sometimes this information can play a part in the Constellation, but it's not a problem if you don't know anything about your ancestors. We can discover everything we need to know in one way or another.
After the Constellation
Please celebrate yourself and the courage it takes to do Constellation work.
Self Care: Taking part in a Constellation session or event can take a lot of energy and attention and it can take time to integrate afterward. It is best not to schedule something strenuous or demanding straight afterwards. Staying hydrated, taking an epsom salt bath, gentle exercise and resting can be good ways to support your body. Afterwards, you may need extra time to rest for a few days.
I recommend not speaking to others or journalling about the specific details of your Constellation for some time so that the experience of the Constellation can remain as a somatic (felt) experience which has the freedom to unfold in your heart naturally over time. When we share an experience or “intellectualise” it, we have a tendency to collapse the experience into one linear storyline in the mind. This can limit the depth of meaning and the potential effectiveness of the Constellation. I invite you to trust that you will remember the important parts of the Constellation and that the experience will continue working in your heart and your life whether you remember all the details or not. Doing art or some form of symbolic physical movement can be a way to help integrate Constellations that don’t require words.
If you set a Constellation, I suggest allowing a couple months before doing another Constellation on the same topic (eg your family, your business) to allow changes from this current Constellation to integrate. Results of a Constellation can vary, sometimes it is immediate and life-changing. Alternatively, there can be an initiated shift that starts slowly and then gathers momentum for change.
Just a reminder Constellations are not intended to be a substitute for medical treatment, medications or support from a mental health professional or therapist. Please seek additional professional help if the support you need goes beyond what Medoc can provide.
If you have questions or comments after the Constellation, you can schedule a free 20 min “Question & Answer or Follow up call” with Medoc. If you need more support, it may be helpful to book an individual session with Medoc (or another trusted practitioner) to help your integration.
Working Individually
Instead of using people to represent the parts of the Constellation we use objects or icons. We will work together to tune into the relationships between the different representatives in the Constellation and to support the healing movement
Online
We will meet via Zoom Video - the link is included at the top of your confirmation and reminder email. Most people have used Zoom by now but if you need more instructions let me know. If you haven’t used Zoom before or haven’t used it for a while you may be asked to download or update before the session so leave a little extra time.
The Zoom link is unique to each appointment booking so please use the link in the most recent appointment confirmation email.
At the time of the session please meet me from a private location with a good internet connection, where you can talk and hear easily. It helps if you can relax either sitting comfortably or lying down while the session is happening.
We will also be using an online platform called ‘iconstellate’ to represent the Constellation, so it is helpful to use a larger computer screen or have another device available so you can see Zoom and the other iconstellate web page at the same time. I will provide the link to the ‘iconstellate’ web page during the session.
Constellations cannot be done via phone as we need to be able to see the spatial relationship between the parts of the Constellation. These sessions cannot be recorded.
In Person
When working individually we use objects to represent the Constellation. We may do this either on a table top using smaller objects or on the floor using felt squares or other larger objects.
There is very little or no touch involved when working individually. The objects are used to represent a hug or a connection.
Working in a Group
In Person Logistics:
Specific Location, Parking, and Flow of the Day information is included in your confirmation and reminder emails.
Online Logistics
At the time of the Online group event you will want to find a private location where you can relax, connect to the internet, and speak and hear easily.
We will meet online via Zoom - the link is included at the top of your confirmation email. Most people have used Zoom by now, but if you need more instructions reach out to Medoc. Please note this Zoom link is unique to each appointment booking so please use the link in the most recent appointment confirmation email.
We will also be using an online platform called ‘iconstellate’ to represent the Constellation, so it is helpful to use a larger computer screen or have another device available so you can see Zoom and the other iconstellate web page at the same time. I will provide the link to the ‘iconstellate’ web page during the session.
Each Constellation lasts somewhere between 60 mins and 2 hours depending on the unique flow and flavor. If the Constellations move very quickly, we may add an additional Constellation to the event or finish early.
Constellations cannot be done via phone as we need to be able to see the spatial relationship between the parts of the Constellation. These sessions cannot be recorded.
Creating a Safe Container
Creating a safe container is really important for doing any healing or ceremonial type work. Please only join a group event if you can take part in a good, supportive and attentive way.
If you are ill, intoxicated, trying to multitask, driving or have any condition where you are unable to give the group event your full attention while it is happening, then it is best not to attend.
To help events be inclusive for all people please interact with kindness and avoid discussion of potentially controversial or polarising topics unless they are relevant to the work being observed or your personal intention. Please keep your comments related to your own personal experience.
Constellations events are not recommended for children because potentially sensitive information may be shared. You can set a Constellation for your child without them being there.
Confidentiality
You are welcome to share your own personal learning from the Group events but to respect the confidentiality of others please don't share any personal information about other people, any healing work or the Constellations outside the group event. Also please don't take any photos or make recordings.
Body and Comfort Related Suggestions
Preferably phones will be turned off while we are working, so please take this into account when planning your time.
Please do not use heavily scented perfumes or products on the day of an in person event as many people are sensitive to fragrances, including me.
Wear clothing that lets you move, sit comfortably and possibly even lie on the floor. It is a good idea to dress in layers as you may get warmer or colder while participating in a Constellation.
Be kind to your body during the Constellation process. If any movement or extended period of standing is difficult we can adjust the Constellation, or use another person to represent.
Be aware that Constellations and sessions may include potentially sensitive content or highlight unresolved traumatic patterns that occur in individuals and families. Also, when done in person, Constellations may include close physical proximity or physical contact. While in the Constellation you may be invited to touch the other person or hug as part of the Constellation and healing process.
By taking part, you agree to take responsibility for your own wellbeing and physical comfort during, and after, any session or event, and to let Medoc know if you need something. You are welcome to just be an observer without representing in the Constellations if that feels most comfortable for you. If it becomes too uncomfortable we can end a session, or you can leave a group event at any time. If you know you are very sensitive you may wish to work individually with Medoc, and/or in an online format
Organise a Circle for your Community
Group Constellation Circles can be arranged online or in person should you want to share this work with your community. Please reach out to discuss possibilities.
Contact Me
If you need to make changes to a booking less than 48 hours before the session, or have questions please contact me: medoc@starbirdhealingarts.com or +1-206-9537070.
